Girl, wash your face by Rachel Hollis- A Willingness to Offend
Great book so far. Love the funny stories and the "Things that helped me" top 3 moments of wisdom/enlightenment she so eloquently categorizes at the end of each chapter.
I honestly do not have time to read in exact detail every word on the page but I scanned pretty efficiently to pull out my favorite quotes.
In Chapter 12, the Lie is: "I need to make myself smaller." The truth is: we need a willingness to offend. And by offend, she means, ..."focus on being the best, most loving version of myself- but whether or not you approve of that isn't my concern."
Powerful words here- I do not need anyone's approval! Stop being a people-pleaser.
I, myself have tried to find approval in the past of anyone who was richer than me, more successful than me, my professors who were smarter than me, and of course, my parents and in-laws, and sometimes my own husband.
I realized years ago that doing something just to get approval and praise is an unfulfilling process that left me unhappy. Why did I care so much? I was insecure and growing up low-income, I almost envied or idolized anyone who was rich because I thought that money was the cure all.
I realized quick in college and corporate America that money is definitely not everything. And in fact, it is root of most evil.
I worked for Bank of America from 2006-2008 during the largest mortgage/financial crisis in history. Bankers and regular people killed themselves over money. In 2006, we celebrated the highest bank stock in the banks history with a nice lunch in Charlotte, NC and 2 years later, I was coaching Managing Directors Jayesh Gopalji and Paul Robertson in the Middle Office accounting and control team on how to present and deliver the message of failure and crisis to their people. The stock plummeted to less than $1. I was lucky I was recruited out to DTCC by my amazing headhunter, Maximum Management and landed a secure spot to ride this crazy financial crisis.
However, lesson learned, need to know not to live to seek approval of others, stand up for morals and ethics 1st, and do the right thing no matter who is watching. Money is not everything- and you should always make decisions with good intentions and with the highest moral and ethical standards.
I had to offend many people who were higher up than me because they did not like when I told them the truth or when I stood my ground. I was paid to do this though as a Leadership Development Consultant and Human Resources professional. My ass was always on the line and if it meant shouting back at a Managing Director (who actually loved me for this afterwards) and having the NYer balls to face higher ups when they were not being ethical, I did it. I showed a "willingness to offend" and to this day, I agree with Rachel Hollis that anyone else's approval is not of my concern.
My Dad used to say- I am happy and know Im doing right because I can put my head down at night and sleep with a good conscience.
I honestly do not have time to read in exact detail every word on the page but I scanned pretty efficiently to pull out my favorite quotes.
In Chapter 12, the Lie is: "I need to make myself smaller." The truth is: we need a willingness to offend. And by offend, she means, ..."focus on being the best, most loving version of myself- but whether or not you approve of that isn't my concern."
Powerful words here- I do not need anyone's approval! Stop being a people-pleaser.
I, myself have tried to find approval in the past of anyone who was richer than me, more successful than me, my professors who were smarter than me, and of course, my parents and in-laws, and sometimes my own husband.
I realized years ago that doing something just to get approval and praise is an unfulfilling process that left me unhappy. Why did I care so much? I was insecure and growing up low-income, I almost envied or idolized anyone who was rich because I thought that money was the cure all.
I realized quick in college and corporate America that money is definitely not everything. And in fact, it is root of most evil.
I worked for Bank of America from 2006-2008 during the largest mortgage/financial crisis in history. Bankers and regular people killed themselves over money. In 2006, we celebrated the highest bank stock in the banks history with a nice lunch in Charlotte, NC and 2 years later, I was coaching Managing Directors Jayesh Gopalji and Paul Robertson in the Middle Office accounting and control team on how to present and deliver the message of failure and crisis to their people. The stock plummeted to less than $1. I was lucky I was recruited out to DTCC by my amazing headhunter, Maximum Management and landed a secure spot to ride this crazy financial crisis.
However, lesson learned, need to know not to live to seek approval of others, stand up for morals and ethics 1st, and do the right thing no matter who is watching. Money is not everything- and you should always make decisions with good intentions and with the highest moral and ethical standards.
I had to offend many people who were higher up than me because they did not like when I told them the truth or when I stood my ground. I was paid to do this though as a Leadership Development Consultant and Human Resources professional. My ass was always on the line and if it meant shouting back at a Managing Director (who actually loved me for this afterwards) and having the NYer balls to face higher ups when they were not being ethical, I did it. I showed a "willingness to offend" and to this day, I agree with Rachel Hollis that anyone else's approval is not of my concern.
My Dad used to say- I am happy and know Im doing right because I can put my head down at night and sleep with a good conscience.
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